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AUM

 

                         VEDIC  VIVAH  SANSKAR

 

 

Commentator: Brigadier Chitranjan Sawant, VSM

 

A Vedic Vivah is a Sanskar. A wedding solemnized according to the Vedic rites

is a Sacrament. It is not a contract which may be rescinded at will. In a Vedic

Vivah, the matrimony is for both spiritual and physical benefits. A man and a

woman choose to come close to each other and take on special responsibilities to

improve self and society. They take a solemn vow to procreate and raise children

who achieve social efficiency.

By entering into a marital tie up, the bride and groom discharge their debt to

parents. The Pitra Rin stands fully paid up.

Matrimony is for Happiness. A happy man and a happy woman make others happy.

Happiness indeed begets happiness. So, our motto is:

GET MARRIED AND STAY MARRIED. Allow me to quote from VEDIC THOUGHTS: ``Equality

between spouses in marital affairs has been the hallmark of the Vedic way of

life.’’ A man and his wife are Friends. Their prayer to Prajapati, The

Almighty is: ``MAY WE EVER BE IN LOVE.’’ Let us go through the important

landmarks of a Vedic Vivah.

JAI MALA In the days of yore, kings and captains used to organize

`Swayamvars’ where the princess would choose her life partner after observing

his miraculous martial feats. Thus martial art and marital vows went hand in

hand. Devi Sita garlanded Shri Ram, Draupadi chose Arjun and Samyukta tied the

nuptial knot with Prithiviraj Chauhan. In the Vedic society women had freedom to

choose their husbands and vice versa.

Ved Mantras are recited to invoke the blessings of Param Pita Parmatma, the

Almighty. The bride takes the lead and garlands the groom, the groom follows

suit. One may ask why should the bride take a lead in the Varmala , garlanding ,

and why should the groom not garland first ? Well, generally speaking, the groom

is an invitee at the brides house and, therefore, it is the bride who welcomes

the groom by garlanding first. Moreover, in a Swamvar, the bride has chosen the

groom of her own free will, without threat or inducement, and by garlanding the

groom first she makes her wish to wed him public. One may say that by this

ritual, she has announced her intention from housetop. The guests and relatives

bless them. They now move to the mandap – the vedi or sanctum sanctorum –

where Vivah Sanskar – Vedic wedding will be solemnized.

WELCOME The bride and her people make the groom and his people comfortable by

offering an ``aasan,’’ a comfortable carpet piece or mat to sit on. It is

the bride who personally invites the groom to be comfortable, to wash feet with

water is offered there. She offers him water to wash face with ``Argha

jal.’’ She again offers water for ``aachaman’’ – sipping water from

cupped hand to refresh himself.

MADHU PARK The bride offers to the groom semi solid edible concoction called

`Madhu Park’. It comprises yogurt or curd, honey or purified butter or ghee.

It is for health and happiness. The groom sprinkles a part of the Madhu Park in

all four directions signifying a desire to share the goodies with one and all.

When the groom looks at the Madhu Park he recites a mantra saying ``Like God,

with the help of the sun pulsates this universe with life, I shall, after

consuming Madhu Park be in the pink of health and attain longevity.’’ While

the groom is holding the vessel of Madhu Park and mixing the three ingredients,

he recites three mantras praying to Parmatma for harmony all around him enabling

him to gel with nature. May air, water, weather and seasons sun and rain, cows

and other animals bring sweetness and joy. He partakes of it thrice eulogizing

the health promoting madhu park as the finest and the sweetest grain.

The final phase is giving away a cow or its cash equivalent by the bride to the

groom signifying cultural and economic importance of cow in the social system.

Further, the bride’s father is indeed concerned about the health of his

daughter and son-in-law. Cow’s milk is indeed Amrit (nectar). Hence, this

ritual is of importance.

PANIGRAHAN The bride and groom voluntarily and willingly accept each other as

equal partners in the life’s journey. In sections of society, under the

influence of dark ages, Panigrahan is named as "Kanya Daan" or giving

away The Girl. It is a grave error. In the Vedic Wedding it is Pani-Grahan - the

two Hold Hands to share joys and sorrows of life. The groom presents clothes to

the bride and say: "O damsel! May you live with me until the old age. Now

put on, please, the dress that I present to you. May you live long to be a

centenarian. May your sons and your wealth not cross limits of honesty and

integrity. Thereafter the groom himself dons a "Uttariya" – unsewn

cloth across shoulder- and vows to be a centenarian while remaining within

limits. He prays for name and fame all around, even among the learned ones.

Now for additional safety from fire and security, one man of groom’s side

sits alert with a pitcherful of clean water. Likewise another man of groom’s

side sits on the southern end of "Agni Kund" facing North.

A brother or a cousin of the bride sits near the `Vedi’ with puffed rice and

Shami’ dried leaves in a winnowing basket. Sitting at the west end, he faces

the east. At this stage the bride and the groom address the august assembly: ``O

ye learned people assembled here in a Yajna – Shala, please know if for sure

we too have chosen to live together in `Gristha Ashram’ happily. Our hearts

are placid as water and joined together as water mixes with water. We are as

dear to each other as the life giving breath is to the living being. We shall be

happy together and love each other as a preacher loves the congregation. Our

souls shall be in a union of love forever,’’ The bride and the groom hold

each other’s right hand and aligning themselves with nature’s gift – air

and water – and say : ``Like the sun draws water through its rays and bestows

benefits to all, far and wide, may you and I, by the grace of God, be together

in thought and

 action. May we be amenable to each other’s counsel and ever be favourably

disposed towards each other. At this juncture what the groom, inter alia, prays

for is: ``the learned bride, with the blessings of God, should have

`compassion’ for both man and animal. May she give birth to brave sons. May

she not be averse to ``niyog’’ that is, if and when necessary in union

with``Devar’’ (one who with the religious sanction deputises for the

husband), procreate to preserve and protect the ``dharma,’’ the path of

righteousness. May I, the groom, follow suit.’’

The Bride prays: ``May the path to my husband’s home be level and wide and I

enter unencumbered by sorrow generating disease.’’ (The Vivah Yajna’’

incorporating Rashtra Bhrita Yajna is performed for making our nation strong and

powerful. The individual and the nation are indeed interdependent.) JAYAHOM is

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PRATIGYA VIDHI The six mantras of mutual love and dedication. The bride and

groom take a vow to live together until old age and have unflinching faith

leading to love. They shall ever be amenable. We shall live like husband and

wife hereafter. God, our creator and preserver, and the learned assembly of men

and women are witnesses to our Vivah – eternal bond of love.

The groom makes his intention of receiving the bride and holding her hand

forever. ``I am your husband and you are my lawfully wedded wife. Let us two be

together in carrying out the house chores. We shall not lead a promiscuous life.

We shall give birth to and raise finest children and ever promote peace and

prosperity.

The groom addresses the wife as `Prajavati’ – one who will beget finest

children. He affirms his pious intention of remaining faithful to her. We shall

be centenarians. Likewise the bride affirms that none but he will always receive

her loving care and attention. Thus both take a solemn vow not to steal the

affection of a third person – never to entertain amorous thoughts out of

wedlock. The prospective couple promise to look after each other’s creative

comforts and give gifts of fine clothes, attractive jewellery. This state of

bliss will beget fine children.

The `Grih ashram’ that is the second stage of life which the bride and the

groom are entering now, will be at its zenith when the two do all they can to

provide a fine future to their progeny. The bride and the groom promise to each

other that they shall NOT cheat on each other. Let us be of help to each other,

to keep the ``third person’’ out for good. Mutual love and togetherness will

cement our ties and bring bliss.

PERAMBULATION The groom holds the bride’s right palm and helps her get up.

Both go round the Yajna kund once. Standing at the original position they recite

a mantra to take a vow: the groom says ``I, in command of my senses, knowingly

and willingly accept thee. Likewise, knowingly and willingly you accept me.

Whereas I am Samved, you are Rigved. You are earth I am sun. We voluntarily and

delightedly marry and beget progeny. May our offspring live long until old age

– be centenarians and remain in command of senses. The bride follows suit.

STEPPING ON ROCK Bride’s stepping on the rock, called Shilarohan in Sanskrit,

is a symbolic act signifying that she should be as firm as a rock. The road

ahead is rocky; walk well, stumble not. It is her brother or mother who helps

the bride ascend the rock. It is a gentle suggestion. Although she is leaving

her maiden home and going to marital home, she may count on their help.

LAJAHOM (Offering puffed rice as ``Aahuti’’) It is a social and

psychological ritual of importance. Like a paddy sapling is transplanted and

then it blooms, a bride is transplanted from parental home to a marital home

where she blooms – blossoms. The puffed rice is a symbol of that.

The `lajahom’ ceremony is a symbol of continuity. The Bride’s brother hands

over puffed rice to her; she and the groom make an offering of it to the `havan

fire’. The ritual makes them stick together through thick and thin. Further,

the bride and the groom will participate in `havan’ and other Vedic ceremonies

together. They are entering the Grahastha Ashram’ – to live as lawfully

wedded husband and wife – perform their religious and social duties together.

After every offering of puffed rice the couple make a parikrama (perambulation)

of the `agni kund’ that is the fire. Mantras are chanted for the health and

happiness of all concerned.

VENI MOCHAN The groom unlocks the locks of hair of the bride. Thus both stand

released from rigours of the `Brahmcharya ashram’ – a life of celibacy for

acquiring knowledge and receiving formal education. The groom chants two Ved

mantras signifying graduation to the second phase of life. The groom releases

the bride from parental home and formally initiates her into the marital home.

Welcomes her as one who will beget bright and brilliant children.

GRANTHI BANDHAN Now the vivah sanskar is about to reach the climax. As a part

of the preparation for the great moment, the bride and the groom tie the knot

– the nuptial knot. It is a symbol of togetherness. It signifies a resolve to

face the world together and solve problems.

SAPTPADI: SEVEN STEPS TO BLISS The bride and the groom now take seven steps

together and move forward. The vivah sanskar is complete in the eye of the law

when Saptpadi (seven steps) is done. Hereafter the couple shares joys and

sorrows of life.

LOVE IS SHARING The seven steps of Saptpadi are: The first one:- Strive

together for food. The two are indeed partners. It is a prayer to attain moral,

mental, physical and financial capability to beget children. The second one:-For

health and strength. Acquire unending energy. The third one:- Prayer for

acquisition of wealth through righteous means. The fourth one:-For HAPPINESS.

Let all our thoughts and action generate happiness. The fifth one:- Give birth

to and raise healthy, happy and intelligent children. Begetting children is a

sacred duty, enjoined on us by the Vedas. Shirk not, shun not. The sixth one:-

Let us gel with nature. Let us be environment friendly. The seventh one:- Let us

be friends – `Sakha bhav’ as is among equals. May we ever be in love.

Sprinkling of a little water on the groom’s head by the bride is done for

cooling effect. He recites mantras for both. Both chant a Ved mantra for a long

life and take a look at the sun, if

 it is daylight. The groom touches his bride’s heart literally and

figuratively. He says: ``I pray for compatibility of body, mind and soul. May

you listen to me and act accordingly.’’ The bride says: ``May you and I have

unity of thought and action. May you listen to me and act accordingly. The

Almighty has enjoined on both of us to shun promiscuity and be faithful and

loyal to each other. We shall be in LOVE.’’

The groom places his hand on the bride’s head and addresses the assembled

guests: ``Kindly behold the bride and bless her before retiring to your

quarters.’’ The blessings and flowers are showered and closing offerings

(Aahuti) made to agni –fire. Thus blessed, the newly married couple retire for

rest. The newly weds have the pitra rin in mind and move forward to take

effective steps for Prajanan or procreation. It is both a religious and social

obligation which should be fulfilled willingly and happily.

AUM.

Address: Brigadier Chitranjan Sawant, VSM

UPVAN 609, sector-29, NOIDA- 201303. INDIA.

Telephone: 0091-120-2454511

Mobile : + 91 – 981113590.

 


 
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